The greatest lessons I've learned are the ones I had to experience for myself. In my youth, I was carefree — very trusting of the world. And honestly, it's hard not to look back at that time with a little bit of nostalgia. To be young and naïve... and that I was.
Below is a tale from my youth that I'm both proud of and slightly embarrassed by. Learn from my mistakes — or, if you can relate, just know you're not the only one! Some things you just have to go through yourself to make sure you don't make the same mistake twice.
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It was December 2016. I was studying abroad in Vienna at the time — a 20-year-old roaming free for the first time in her life. I had just wrapped up classes for my exchange program, but decided to stick around in Vienna until my lease ended in early January. That gave me about a month to travel and explore. So I did.
I decided I was going to travel solo for the first time (well... mostly solo). I'd start off in London with some friends, then head to Copenhagen, Paris, and Krakow by myself, before returning back to Vienna in time for Christmas.
The trip kicked off in London, where I ended up at a warehouse party. I met up with my friend Molly, and we danced the night away to a DJ whose name I definitely don't remember. (Kids, do not trust random strangers! Just know I was young and stupid) BUT — I had a great time!
I landed in Copenhagen — a city I now absolutely adore (especially after working there), but back then? As a broke 20-year-old student? That city was $$$$ (yes, four dollar signs). I biked around, visited the big landmarks and free museums, but couldn't afford to enjoy the amazing food scene. Beautiful city though.
But... Copenhagen is also where I had my first mishap of the trip.
It was my last day in the city. I had a flight in a few hours, and since it was raining, I decided to chill in my hostel's common area. I was on my laptop, browsing around and booking stuff for my upcoming stay in Paris.
It was almost time to leave for the airport, so I packed up most of my things — except my laptop and its case — and figured I'd hit the restroom real quick before heading out. I turned to the guy sitting at the table next to me and asked if he could keep an eye on my stuff for a sec while I ran to the bathroom. He said sure.
I was gone maybe a minute. Tops.
I came back, and my stuff was still there... but the guy was gone. Weird, but I didn't think too much of it at first. I went to put my laptop away — and that's when I realized how light the case felt. Too light. My stomach dropped.
I opened it up. Laptop: gone.
Cue internal panic.
I ran around asking the hostel staff and anyone nearby if they'd seen anything — but no luck. That guy, the one I so naively trusted, had straight up stolen my laptop. Just walked off with it while I was in the bathroom. I couldn't believe it.
I wanted to stay and try to investigate more, maybe file a report or something, but unfortunately, I had a flight to catch. So I had to suck it up, pack the rest of my things, and head to the airport.
And that, folks, is how Den"marks" the spot of my first-ever travel theft. (Even if it was less pickpocketing and more "I handed it to him on a silver platter.")
Begrudgingly, I made my way to Paris. A new city, a new start. I talked myself out of spiraling and reminded myself: I was in Paris, in the winter — yes, I'd lost my laptop, but how lucky was I to be here, experiencing this? I turned my lemons into lemonade, got out of my head, and actually started enjoying myself.
The Christmas markets were magical. The city at night was stunning. It was lively but also grungier than I expected — not the polished, romantic Paris I had imagined. But honestly? I vibed with that. I love it when a city just is — not trying to impress you, just existing unapologetically.
But of course... the peace didn't last.
My Paris leg ended faster than I expected. I had an early flight to Krakow, so I left my hostel around 5 AM and headed to the bus station to buy a ticket to the airport. The city was mostly empty at that hour, but the station itself was packed. I pushed through the crowd, got in line, made it to the front, asked for a ticket — and then went to pay.
I reached for my purse... and it wasn't there.
The strap was still around me, but in all the chaos, I hadn't noticed someone had snipped the bag right off it. Gone. My entire wallet, passport, and all my money — poof.
Cue panic. Again.
My fight-or-flight kicked in. I started asking everyone around me if they'd seen anything — full-on panicked American mode. No one was helpful. I got a few looks of pity, some annoyed shrugs, but no answers.
So I walked away from the crowd, completely defeated, and sat down on a bench with what little I had left.
No ID. No credit cards. No cash. Alone in Paris. No way to get housing. No real options.
I felt like I was living one of those worst-case travel horror stories they warn you about — the ones that start with, "This is why you don't travel alone." I wanted to cry. But I also knew crying wouldn't do a damn thing. I needed to figure out a survival plan. Then I could fall apart.
Calling my parents crossed my mind — but it was an ungodly hour for them, and if I'm being honest, I had too much pride (and fear) to tell them what kind of situation I was in.
So, I picked myself up and walked back over to the train station. I used Google Translate to talk to a station attendant and explained what happened. I asked her how I could get to the U.S. Embassy. (This was pre-international roaming (shoutout T-Mobile) — I had no data, no connection, and was fully relying on offline maps.)
I think she took pity on me, because she let me into the station for free and told me exactly which lines to take. So I took the train and walked my ass to the embassy... at 6 AM.
And then I found out...
Apparently, the U.S. Embassy doesn't open until 8 AM AND it's closed on Sundays... Yup. After everything, I was told they couldn't help me and I should come back on Monday.
Cool cool cool.
They did recommend I go to the police and file a report — that way I'd at least have something to show for my missing ID. So I left the embassy even more defeated than I'd arrived.
Still stranded in Paris. Still broke. Still alone. Just me, my phone, my clothes, and now... a whole lot of existential dread.
I made my way to the nearest police station and filed a report like they told me. They gave me a copy, which listed the items that were stolen — and mentioned I could use it as a temporary ID. Not ideal, but I ran with it.
By now, it was almost 11 AM. The city was starting to wake up around me, and for some reason, that woke me up too. The buzz of normalcy gave me energy. I navigated my way to a café, sat down, and started plotting.
I told myself: F*ck this.
I am not staying here another night.
I needed to get back to Vienna. Back to my apartment. Back to my base. I could figure out everything else — new passport, new cards, etc. — once I was home.
I started brainstorming. And the puzzle pieces started coming together.
I realized I still had my PayPal account linked to my credit card. So before I cancelled the card, I used PayPal to book a bus ticket from Paris to Vienna. Twenty hours. With a layover in Amsterdam. Was it ideal? No. But it was something.
Then, instead of having a new card shipped to Vienna (which didn't make sense with my time left), I used Western Union to send myself money for the rest of my trip — something I could pick up once I got back to Vienna.
Within an hour, sitting at that café, I had a plan.
I headed back to the train station, convinced another kind attendant to let me ride for free (shoutout to all the sweet strangers who took pity on me), and made my way to the bus terminal.
I was nervous — so nervous — when boarding time came. My entire plan hinged on whether the driver would accept my police report as a valid form of ID. Either that, or he'd just take one look at me — clearly a distressed, innocent-looking girl with pleading eyes — and let me on.
He did.
And once I got on that bus and it actually started moving, only then did the floodgates open. Only then did I allow myself to cry — to actually feel everything that had just happened, everything I had held in.
I used the bus Wi-Fi to call my mom and told her everything — what happened, what I lost, and how I managed to solve it. She was, understandably, furious, but also relieved that I was safe and on my way back to Vienna.
Since I had no money on me, I basically starved for a day and a half — minus the weed cookies this traveler shared with me at the Amsterdam bus terminal. He got me properly blazed, which was kind of a hit-and-miss situation: I finally ate something... but also got the munchies at the same time. Still — thank you, kind stranger.
Eventually, I made it back to Vienna, picked up the cash I'd wired myself, devoured some food, and got a new passport.
Everything worked out in the end — but damn, what a ride.
Lessons learned from my mishaps
- Always take your important stuff with you. Even if it's just for a minute. Not everyone thinks the way you do.
- Don't keep all your important things in one place. Diversification is key. Keep your wallet separate from your passport. Always have a backup card. These days, I keep a spare credit card hidden somewhere else in my bag — so if anything gets stolen, I don't lose everything.
- Don't be afraid to just go for it. Confidence — or honestly, sometimes just brazen desperation — can get you a lot further than you think.
- I'm actually pretty proud of how I handled myself. I may not have been the smartest traveler back then, but I stayed calm, got creative, and figured it out. I didn't let panic win. That version of me? She held it down. Queen Behaviour.
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When we travel, we're bound to run into things we didn't plan for. Some situations are totally out of our control — and sometimes, even when they are in our control, we make mistakes. That's just part of being human. The key is to grow from it. And the lessons we learn the hard way? Sometimes, those are the ones that stick.
There's something kind of beautiful about that.
But also... DON'T BE DUMB. Don't make the same mistakes over and over again. Learn from your mishaps!!
As long as you're not out here making the same mistakes twice — you're gonna be alright.